So I have a bit to add to the whole friendzone debate that I’ve been seeing on Tumblr. Let me first say that I totally recognize that there are men AND women who try to sleep with another person using the guise of friendship as a means to do so. However, there are just as many people who have been friendzoned who ALSO appreciate the fact that people deserve respect.
I am a male who has both friendzoned people and has been friendzoned by others. Please do not discredit my experience based on the fact that I am male, because i am arguing that it can happen to any person regardless of their gender. I once really cared about a girl in high school. We had great chemistry and she expressed interest in me on several occasions. one day, she up and decided that she only wanted to be friends with me. That was her choice and I respected that. But that does NOT mean that it was not difficult for me to get over her nor does it imply that i did not try to win her favor after our discussion. I was friendzoned, It was a painful experience, and it was real. I eventually got over it and started dating someone else. Me and the girl i mentioned previously remain best friends until this very day.
I also had a similar experience in which I was the one friendzoning someone else. it was a very similar environment and I (accidentally) insinuated that i was interested in her romantically when i was not. She confessed her love, i apologized that i led her on and explained that i felt differently. the end. she’s dating someone else and we’re still friends.
What I’m getting at is this: a man’s feelings can legitimately be manipulated and abused in a way that, either with or without intent , can cause him to believe that a relationship has romantic potential when it does not. i.e. friendzoned. the same can happen to a woman. Do not discredit a real human experience just because it varies from your own.